Thanks for all the replies guys. I have offered to got to mediation and split all assests like sell of house, 401k, IRA's, Bank. Even pay off the car that she uses and sign title over to her (it is in my name only). All I want are cigars and a few personal items that I had prior to her. I do like the idea of - if she wants half of cigars then I want half of purses. That would stop her.